Monday, February 13, 2012

The Next Best Orgasm

The question of long-term relationships came up in conversation recently. I guess it is always a thought for me since I’ve got the Disney Princess hope for happily-ever-after always playing in my head. But take away the Disney and how long is long? Can a person be in a relationship that lasts forever? What if your forever is starting at 30 or 40 or 50 years old? That should still work, right?

Disney Princess Couple Image
Okay, if they can all find happily-ever-after, why can’t we? Image from 

I’m finding that couples who I thought had the perfect relationships are breaking up all around me. I’m also finding that, too often, one person has cheated on their partner and that contributed to the demise of the relationship. Other factors were probably in play, but that was the last straw.

Relationships are hard. They can become mundane. Almost boring. Even exhausting. They are mainly consisting of the day-to-day stuff. The coming home at the end of the day, making dinner, doing laundry, cleaning bathrooms, grocery shopping, taking care of the kids, walking the dog, the cleaning of the litter boxes day-to-day stuff. It’s no wonder people look outside their relationships and marriages when the most exciting thing of the evening seems to be cleaning toilets or folding clothes. 

*Scout-in Maine!: Labrador Retriever, Dog; Kennebunkport, ME
Time to walk the dog! This is Scout. He’s available for adoption at Lucky Pup Rescue.  

There is fun, excitement and adventure in the newness of another person. There’s the thrill of the hunt. Plus, the secrecy factor in being out together and not being caught. Those could all heighten the experience of being with someone new. Also, their problems don’t usually come up in a short-lived affair. They seem like perfect human beings. The sex is great, the passion is there. Everything seems perfect. As an added bonus, they think you are perfect too. Who wouldn't want that?

Great song with a similar theme by Mary Selvidge called Would It Matter. Would it?
Be sure to check out her other videos too. Country music at its best.

All that supposed perfection is so much better than what you have at home. Maybe things have gotten dull in the bedroom? Maybe the day-to-day doldrums have overshadowed the intimacy that you once had? Maybe sex is pretty much non-existent? Instead of trying to rekindle what you once had, why not just go out and look for something new? A better body? Bigger boobs? A harder dick? Isn’t that the easiest thing to do?

Who doesn’t want great sex? With a handsome or gorgeous partner? But, is an affair really the way to go? Too many people are out there dealing with the hurt and baggage that was put on them by a cheating partner.

And, if we do find that next best orgasm in a new lover, how long will that last? Is it really any better than what we once had with our mate? When the newness and excitement wears off, and when the problems come out…what’s left?

Oh, we all remember what happens with this affair...

Is that new orgasm worth giving up the loving relationship that you have with your partner or spouse? Something has to be said for the intensity of an orgasm when shared between two people who care for and love each other. That Big O goes through their bodies and their hearts more than just their loins. I want to experience a long-term relationship with someone whom I love deeply, where we do the day-to-day things together, where we are making a lifetime of memories together, where we find time for each other and create moments together for intimacy, passion and our next best orgasm.

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