The idea of a love that lasts forever is one for us hopeful
romantics. A theme for songs. For poems. For novels. And, for Hollywood
movies (at least the chick flick variety).
Can one love in our life last forever? One love who is there
through it all? Through thick and thin? Through ups and downs? As the
Disney-theory goes, one would have to say “yes” to those questions. But, from
life as I’ve seen it (and from what I’ve seen with so many others), I would
say, “not exactly.”
As a friend once suggested, and as my life experiences have
played out, there may be several loves in one’s lifetime. Several mates and
partners that, each time, we think we are in love with them. The level of love
may be different with each of those too. From first loves to lustful loves to
this seems like I should make it work love. Maybe for each of those time
periods in our life, those different loves worked?
Were we really sure that we were in love in each of those
relationships? While we are in them we may think so. There’s the excitement.
The butterflies. The passion. But is everything else there that should
accompany those feelings? The sharing? The day to day rituals? The leaning on
and being there for one another unconditionally? The dreaming of and working
towards a future together? All of these things, along with the excitement,
butterflies and passion should definitely be there.
Hindsight is 20/20. Looking back usually tells a different
story. Initially we think we have those things. But careful or sometimes just
obvious thought reveals that we didn’t have true love. It may have been young.
It may have been forced. Or, it may have just been about sex and lust. Yea,
good sex and lust can certainly feel like love.
Perhaps these different loves we thought we had are really
just stepping stones for us? Steps that give us the background and knowledge
for what we really want? Or, steps that give us the knowledge of what we don’t
want? Steps that have given us experiences to compare what we’ve had to what we
really need. Steps that show us how we treat others and how we should be
treated.
I’d like to think that, now, as I am in my mid-40s that I
have finally found my Forever Love. Funny thing is that I wasn’t even looking
for it when it happened. I have been blown away by how right everything is with
Five Eleven. How I have fallen in love with her from the inside out. By not
looking, by not forcing a relationship, by starting out with a genuine
friendship, I found someone who has matched up with all that I have ever
wanted. Someone who totally gets me for me. And, who treats me the way I feel I
have always deserved to be treated. And she loves the way that I treat her. It’s
comfortable. We fit. How lucky am I?
So, from here on out, I figure I still have forever. Forever
to experience and live life. And, now, I can do all that with my Forever Love.
How about you? Have
you found your Forever Love? When did you find it? What makes it so special for
you? Did you ever think you had it, but found out otherwise? Please share your thoughts
below. Thanks!
@Ybbeige
Well, and this might sound kind of odd but, I am totally and completely in love with my farm. Now, I love my husband too. We have been married for oh, six, seven years now. But even if that were to fade I would always have my land. There is something about owning land that gets under your skin, it's like nothing else in the whole world. So when people ask about love my thoughts always go to my place. My home. My farm.
ReplyDeleteQueen Holly, I think PLACE can be something we totally love. Not odd at all! That's one of the reasons I studied interior design...our home is where our heart is. I'm glad that you have a farm that holds your heart. Thanks for sharing!
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